I invite you to step into a world
where this truth will lead you to better understand
and be understood in your relationships.
You have everything marked off your checklist:
The all-important top college education
A career that makes you plenty of money
A life partner
Children
A picture-perfect family
and yet…..things aren’t the way you pictured.
Despite your best efforts, you’re exhausted in trying to understand the people in your life, especially your children and intimate relationships.
Your way of communicating is nagging and yelling, despite your intention, leaving you frustrated and resorting to control.
You find yourself misunderstood, unable to create deep, close, connected relationships.
“Love means compromise”, they said.
You’ve been told, for as long as you remember, that the key to a successful relationship is compromise!
This understanding of love keeps you distributing your limited time and energy at home between your child and partner, in hopes that this love that you give will be reciprocated.
Until you realize your expectation of getting it back, is a never-ending quest.
But are they?
I invite you to be curious. If you’re willing, come with me.
Traditionally, to compromise means:
1. To meet each other half-way.
2. Accepting standards that are lower than is desirable for you.
Do you compromise your feelings to avoid confrontations with your partner, making your throat tighten and heart race?
Does it give you a sense of control? Or the opposite?
Do you compromise your energy to avoid being disliked, such as doing things for your child that they are capable of doing for themselves?
Does it make you feel exhausted, or burdened by their dependency on you?
Do you compromise your time to over-deliver for your family, while feeling a lack of worth and value for yourself?
How needy do you feel?
If you resonate with this, it’s likely your experience of compromise is one-sided rather than mutual.
This creates a feeling of helplessness and powerlessness in your relationships.
Perhaps you feel that way right now. You might feel burdened, trapped, lonely, and lacking in confidence.
In order for you to claim that power back, you must go on a journey into learning how to understand and relate to yourself.
When you understand yourself, it will shift the way you look at your relationships;
especially your relationship with your child.
Instead of ‘meeting half-way’
you’ll learn how to ‘meet together’.
You’ll honor both yourself, your child and your intimate relationships in such a way that you’ll listen to each other, speak to each other, and act with each other.
You will communicate openly, co-create and co-exist in the realities
you each want to see in your life journey together.
Imagine what your world would feel like when:
You can express your thoughts and emotions without fearing a breakdown.
You can communicate your intent in a way that you both feel safe and comfortable.
You can create the conditions in your home that encourage everyone
to meet their own needs and maintain responsible habits.
Both you, your child and people in your life can live a life of choice, while feeling confident that everyone is thriving emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.
Hi, I’m Jilna.
I’m passionate about helping moms of 3-10 year old
children learn the tools to understand themselves, so that
they can understand their relationships and form deep,
close, connected bonds, both with their children and intimate relationships.
I believe it’s 100% possible for everyone.
I’ve walked this journey of understanding myself. I only preach what I live, and I now live with peace of mind.
Those I’ve worked with say I’m easy to talk to and a non-judgemental listener. I’m honest, transparent, and
stay true to my word. I also have strong will,
which helps others reach their goals.
I am committed to my own growth, as well as to the growth
of those I help and provide support to without shame. I will
ask concise questions to help you understand who you are.
I offer different perspectives. I’ll give you my best.
I want you to experience this peace of mind.
I’ll share my mix of philosophical, logical, and practical parenting experiences to help inspire you to learn to communicate in a language that you, your child and intimate relationships
can speak in and understand.
This will empower you to live your well-deserved, well-rounded life journeys in harmony.
The truth is, it’s not about what you need from me.
it’s what you need from yourself
that which you seek is already inside you. it’s your birthright.
I just help you claim it.
Are you ready for a shift?
thriving in the truth:
turning triggers into
your triggers connect with yourself more deeply
and communicate with clarity to create the growth
and concretion you desire in your relationships
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“It’s not every day you’re so fortunate to meet a person who has (if not all) answers to everything, and who ends up from being your friend and your coach in every aspect of your life, and business, whichever your needs are. I bet I’m not the only one who thinks that way!
I‘ve known Jilna since I started my photography business, a little more than 8 years now. For me, Jilna is all about answers. She’s unbelievably talented. She has helped me grow, not only in my business but as a human being. She has taken me out of my comfort zone by looking for answers I didn’t know I had. She makes me feel empowered, believing that I can do whichever my mind sets itself to.
I love her communication skills, she speaks so clearly! She’s knowledgeable, supportive, and so positive. She’s as much of a perfectionist as I am, so it gets easier to understand my crazy point of views and contribute/provide me with ideas and solutions that help me implement changes if necessary to achieve my goals in life, or come up with strategies to help my business grow. She makes everything so simple. I’m blessed to have had her in my life!”
I’M A CERTIFIED CONSCIOUS PARENTING COACH
FROM DR. SHEFALI’S COACHING INSTITUTE.
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